
There are some IEP goals I can write pretty quickly.
If I have good baseline data and a clear area of need, I can usually figure out where I want a student to go with an academic skill. Behavior and SEL IEP goals are different. I can know a student REALLY well, understand exactly what is happening, and still spend an absurd amount of time staring at the goal box trying to turn all of that information into one measurable sentence. These goals are hard to write!!
They require a ridiculous amount of thinking at a point when most special education teachers do not exactly have an abundance of unused brain space available.
You are already writing the rest of the IEP. You have progress monitoring to review. You have present levels to update. You are thinking about accommodations, services, minutes, parent concerns, teacher input, data, scheduling, and the 55 other things that need to happen before the meeting. Your brain is scrambled eggs.
Then you arrive at the behavior and SEL IEP goals and somehow need to figure out what is happening, determine what skill the student actually needs, decide what meaningful progress in that skill would look like, account for the supports the student uses, figure out how you could reasonably collect data on it, AND turn the entire thing into clear IEP language.
Approximately 700 years later, you have written one goal.
Measurable doesn’t automatically mean meaningful
Part of what makes behavior and SEL IEP goals so difficult is that the thing we initially notice is often a behavior rather than a skill.
A student is refusing work, they are off task, they struggle with transitions, they argue when they are told no, they leave the classroom, they shut down when work becomes difficult. Those observations are important & they give us great information.
The problem comes when we take the behavior we want to change and simply turn it into a measurable goal.
- “Student will follow adult directions in 4 out of 5 opportunities.”
- “Student will remain on task for 80% of the class period.”
- “Student will accept no without arguing.”
Technically, I can collect data on all of those things, butttt I still don’t know what skill I am supposed to teach.
That is the part I wanted to spend a little more time thinking about.
Get more specific about the skill
When I am stuck on behavior and SEL IEP goals, I try to move away from describing what I want the student to stop doing and get much more specific about what would actually help them navigate that situation. Here’s some examples:
- A student who appears to be refusing a task may need to learn how to communicate that the task is inaccessible, ask for clarification, identify what is making the task difficult, or request a support.
- A student who struggles when plans change may need support recognizing their emotional response, communicating a need, developing an alternative plan, or using a regulation strategy.
- A student who gets into frequent peer conflict may need to work on setting boundaries, considering another perspective, identifying when adult support is needed, or participating in collaborative problem solving.
- A student who is consistently “off task” may need support with task initiation, breaking a task into manageable steps, recognizing when they are stuck, or identifying a barrier that is interfering with their ability to access the work.
Once I the actual skill is identified, writing the goal gets SO much clearer.
I have something I can teach AND something I can measure. I can think about what support the student currently needs and what meaningful progress could look like over the next year. Getting there, however, takes a lot of mental energy.
Teachers do not need more things to figure out from scratch
I think sometimes we talk about teacher workload as though the problem is simply the number of tasks teachers have to complete. There is also an enormous amount of invisible cognitive work happening inside those tasks.
“Write the IEP goal” sounds like one item on a to-do list. However in reality, writing one good functional behavior goal can require you to synthesize observations from multiple environments, student strengths and needs, baseline data, communication skills, environmental factors, disability-related needs, accommodations, family input, and your own professional knowledge.
Then you have to WORD IT – and you are probably doing this after teaching all day.
This is exactly why I love resources that give teachers a meaningful starting point. They do not and could not ever replace professional judgment or individualized decision making. What I really believe they do is give your already overworked brain somewhere to begin.

So I made the goal bank I wanted to have
I created my K–5 Functional Behavior and SEL IEP Goals Bank specifically to take some of that mental lifting off your plate.
I identified 52 functional skill areas across emotional regulation, self-advocacy, communication, flexibility, frustration, problem solving, peer relationships, executive functioning, school access, and self-determination.
Then I wrote three ready-to-customize goal options for every skill area.
That gives you 156 specific Functional Behavior and SEL IEP goals to start from.
The mastery criteria are intentionally customizable, too. I did not automatically stick “80% accuracy” onto 156 goals and call it a day. The appropriate criterion depends on the student, the baseline, the skill, the environment, and what meaningful progress actually looks like for that individual student.
The goal bank is there to help you identify the skill, find language that fits, and customize it for the student you know.
You still bring the professional judgment, you still know the unique student, and you still make the decisions.
You just don’t have to invent every single sentence from scratch while your teacher brain has the approximate consistency of scrambled eggs.
